BOEKSCHRIJVER

To have or not to have…that’s the question.

That’s what Shakespeares wife must have said when they got married, I think 🤣

“Don’t you want kids?”People asked me  when I was young. “Whay?”

“No.” I said. I didn’t want them for I didn’t think that was necessary for feeling yourself a real women. I didn’t want to end up as a housewife or being dependent on my friend/husband.

I really didn’t want to married or having kids.

I think it’s oké for wanting kids. But it’s also oké not to want them either way.

But that’s not how I was raised. I was reaised the oldfashion way and told to be married and have kids. Staying home and let your man earn the money.

I always fight against this and decided young not to get married or have kids.

Then one day, I saw people around me having children. I still didn’t see me as a homestaying mother

But suddenly I realised that giving birth was the greatest wonder in the world.

Not everyone can create a little human. No man and (sadly also) some women too. Still I didn’t see me as a mother…
But slowly I felt the need to experience this wonder for once in my lifetime, íf I only could be so lucky.
And I did…

Oh, I never gave up my independency but I made space in my life for another human being. It’s never been easy but I grew mentaly and learn that you just need to follow your heart to be who you want to be.

Now I am proud of having a great kid, two bonus kids, a wonderwel husband, a great company and doing the things my way.

Still I’m not the housekeeping mom but hopefully my kid(s) feels themself lucky to have me as their mom..